I cried today, which probably doesn’t seem surprising. But due to being medicated for my OCD and generalized anxiety disorder, tears are few and far between. In fact, I could probably count on two hands the number of times I’ve cried since Adeline’s diagnosis. So today when I called the benefits coordinator for my district to discuss a change in insurance, the last thing I expected was to end up crying on the phone. The insurance plans being offered by my district are changing, and our current insurance plan is no longer an option. Don’t get me wrong I’m so thankful we have insurance. But the thought of trying to figure out if *every single doctor* involved in Adeline’s care accepts our new insurance was overwhelming and sent me over the edge. This includes oncologists, pathologists, radiologists, cardiologists, anesthesiologists/sedationists, nutritionists, physical therapists, surgeons, emergency room doctors, etc. (For those is Central Texas, we currently have Scott & White, so I know that every single person we come in contact with at A’s treating hospital is in network.) In the long run, it really doesn’t matter. I know for a fact that 2-3 months in to our new plan year, Adeline will have met her out of pocket maximum. And I also know that we will do whatever it takes and see whichever doctors we need to see to keep Adeline healthy. But today it was too much. And I’m thankful for the sweet woman in HR who listened to me, HEARD me, and found a way to do what she could to take a little off of my load.
Every Three Minutes
Every three minutes, someone in the US is diagnosed with a blood cancer. This is Adeline's story. Her desire is for transparency in its telling, and from the start we have followed her lead. All vulnerable photos and medical information are shared with her consent.
Tuesday, May 10, 2022
Saturday, April 16, 2022
The last “before” day
Our family endured the hardest parts of Adeline’s journey while still in isolation. I was out of the classroom for 17 months. And although we did share her story, I don’t think it reflected how much I was changing. I don’t even think I realized how much I was changing until trying to go back into the “real world.” I tried to do things like the old Katie, and I just couldn’t. And I struggled with that a lot. Especially feeling the weight of the pressure to live up to the old me. But the truth is, I’m completely different. There is still some of the “before” me there, and maybe some more will re-emerge as time goes on. I’m still determined (stubborn), loyal, considerate of others. But I’m different. My priorities, my focus, even the way my trauma brain works. All different. And that’s okay.
I knew that D-day (diagnosis day) was Sunday. My body has felt it all week. But I somehow lost track of the days and was taken aback by this picture on TimeHop today. Literally took my breath away. I had to double check that the date today was indeed the 16th- the last “before” day. I took this picture and knew that something was wrong. Of course, I couldn’t have imagined what it was. But I just knew.
Tomorrow it will be two years since receiving Adeline’s diagnosis. 730 days of battling with leukemia. We are so grateful for where she is now. Back at school, still in remission, living as close to a normal life as she can. But her journey isn’t over (just this week she’s neutropenic again and missed a whole week of school), the threat of relapse still looms, and tomorrow still brings heaviness. It marks the day that started the “after.” I have two pictures of me from that day, one before and one after. And that’s how I see them in my mind. I want to go hug the before Katie and tell her to hold tight, but also to embrace the change because it means she’s stepping into the moment and adapting to meet her needs and the needs of her family.
Monday, July 12, 2021
Navigating a new normal
Adeline is one cycle (3 months) into maintenance, and it feels like we have one foot in the cancer world and one foot in the “real world.” It’s been harder than I imagined getting back to normal, mostly because our new normal is so different. Chemo everyday, plus continued mindfulness surrounding Covid, makes everyday decisions tougher than they should be. More than once, Adeline has had to take chemo while out. Here she is taking chemo at the USWNT game in Austin. She’s also taken her daily chemo at a drive-in movie and a summer swim party.
We have tried to make this summer enjoyable and memorable, since last summer was consumed by cancer, covid, and kidney transplants. The kids have been able to go to camp for part of the summer, and Adeline is thriving as a CIT. She still tires easily, but is learning to listen to her body and not push.
Next Monday starts cycle two of long-term maintenance. Her body has tolerated this mix of chemo meds fairly well, so we’re cautiously optimistic for what the fall holds with school and a more intense schedule.
She recently hit the halfway point in treatment. A friend asked if it felt good to be half done or overwhelming to think that we still had 14 months to go. And honestly, it feels both. I’m hopeful that the back half will be easier than the front half, but I also know there are no guarantees in the cancer world. For now, we’re enjoying our summer and the fact that she is healthy enough to do the things she wants to do!
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Saturday, April 17, 2021
One year.
Recently I was cleaning and came upon the paper that I had scribbled notes on before packing our bags and heading to Temple for the first of what feels like hundreds of times. I shared a picture of the note with a friend and she mentioned how you can see the panic and fear in my writing.
And it’s true. Scribbles, print to cursive and back, misspelled words. And those little stars next to “65% blasts on smear?” That’s screaming CANCER.The last picture I took on her diagnosis day was actually early in the morning on the 18th. We had finally gotten settled in a room on the floor and she had drifted off to sleep. I requested to speak to the doctor, wanting confirmation of what we were expecting. The resident who had come in to check on us was hesitant, but the sweet nurses could tell that I needed this. They assured me that they would call the attending in to visit with me. And he did. Some kind doctor came and sat next to me while Adeline slept peacefully, and he confirmed- leukemia. I knew he couldn’t tell me any more than that, but I needed to know so I could at least try to rest a little. When he left, I settled in the recliner as close to her as I possibly could and snapped this picture. I’m not even sure why I took it, but I did.
Thursday, February 25, 2021
How to be there...
Tuesday, February 16, 2021
Hospital Life
Somehow the hospital feels isolating, yet comforting at the same time. There’s so much routine and schedule, but every day comes with its own unknowns. And it’s so loud, I have to cast a small net to catch only the sounds within our four walls. Otherwise, the beeps, babies crying, toddlers yelling, and chatter from the nurses station gets to be too much. A white noise machine, diffuser, and my yoga mat help us maintain zen in our room.
Of course, the staff is amazing. They go out of their way to make sure we have everything we could need and are as comfortable as possible, despite being at the hospital. By now, we have a routine and rhythm that we have created to make our days easier. We keep a hospital “go bag” with two nights of necessities packed and ready to go. My hospital blanket, egg-crate mattress topper, and travel pillow are always in the back of the car.
I have to leave our room several times a day, and I try to take the time in the elevator as a minute to breathe. When the elevator doors close, I let all the hospital sounds and worries leave me for just a minute. Drop my shoulders, unclench my teeth, close my eyes. And then I count the beeps to the fifth floor. Beep- breathe in. Beep- breathe out. Beep- breathe in. Beep- breathe out. Then the doors open and it’s back to reality of hospital life. One thing about hospital life that I love the most- she always wants to snuggle with me as she falls asleep 🧡
Update on decisions since my last post- we settled on option two and were preparing to start Interim Maintenance 2. Unfortunately, Adeline dealt with severe neutropenia and spent two weeks in the hospital before she could begin. During that time, three bone lesions were discovered after a CT scan. The biggest spot was biopsied and we spent a nerve wracking 5 days waiting on results. Thankfully, they came back showing no cancer cells present. After her counts finally recovered, she was discharged and scheduled to begin IM2. When she went into the clinic for day 1, she was severely malnourished and dehydrated- too much for chemo. So that’s how we ended up back here!
Monday, January 11, 2021
The only way out is through.
Sometimes my Timehop app can be really hard to look at. To quote my sister, “Time is a weird thing with grief.” Seeing things even from just one year ago can be so hard. Sometimes it’s hard to remember a time before cancer. But sometimes, just the right thing pops up and gives me the encouragement I need. Recently I’ve been feeling so tired and overwhelmed. I give everything I have to teaching full time (online), being a parent, being a wife, and being Adeline’s advocate. And honestly, it’s been heavy lately. But then this gem popped up last week.
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